Episode 130 transcript:

Speaker 1: (00:03)
Welcome back. Quick announcement before we get into the episode today is the first day of the energetic business foundation. It is a free three day live training intensive with me in a private popup Facebook group. And we'll be on zoom together Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, and then there will be some replay access. So if you haven't already applied, this is your sign. If you were waiting for one to go apply, if you've been hearing me talk about it and you thought, well, I don't know anything about energy. I don't speak energy. What if that's not for me? That's not for me. I don't know these things.

Speaker 1: (00:53)
This episode is to talk through that kind of experience with you walking through what happens when our brain takes over and gets involved and stops us from doing a thing and really a lesson in following your heart over your mind. I'm gonna kick us off with, and this actually started to percolate and sit in my field, feeling like an invitation to speak about when I was on the pragmatic doulas podcast a couple weeks ago. And one of the questions that they asked me was when did I start to have language for this kind of thing for talking about energy and business and that stuff. And it was such a great question because the truth is, you know, I am not somebody who was born with this, this ability to talk about language, to talk about energy and spirituality and the way I think about business, the way I talk about business, this was not me.

Speaker 1: (02:00)
You know, several years ago, I wasn't born like this. Well, I may have been born with it in me, you know, but the language was part of the evolution. And if you knew me in like 2017, the way I was talking about things, very different than the way I talk about things now. And it's been because of my willingness to step into something that I had no idea about. So if you've been hearing me talk about energy in business, and you're like, what the hell are you talking about? You are me and I was you guaranteed. I had no clue. So I can go back to 2019. I think it was 2000. Yes, 2019 in the spring, I went to a retreat and I was having a conversation with one of the people who came to the retreat. Who's now one of my mentors and she was trying to ex I'm like, how exactly does

Speaker 2: (02:59)
Distance, energy healing work? She was a energy healing practitioner among other things. And, but she was just explaining these things to me. And she's like, have you ever considered da, da, da, really? It was the expansion principle, healing, energy modality. And I'm like, no, I have no idea what that is. I'm not a healer. You know, no offense. I love her. I adore her as a person. And I always listened to her speak and thought, oh, I have no, honestly I was used to think, I don't know what really you're saying, but it sounds lovely. And I joke with her about this now. And she knows, you know, that, that's how I thought. And, and that's what I told her. I'm like, I honestly don't understand it. I don't, it's no, I've never thought about doing it because it's not me and lucky for me.

Speaker 2: (03:47)
She already saw something in me. That was a possibility that I couldn't see yet because my brain was taking over. My brain was like, you don't know how to do that. You don't speak energy. You don't talk like that. You can hardly even understand what she's saying. You have to listen to her podcast 15 times to just take one little piece and try to understand it. You don't get it. This is all the rude things my brain was saying, right? You're not that kind of person. You're not a healer. You're not gonna go hang a plaque on the wall at your business, virtual business and say, healer, that's just not you. Right? All these things. My brain was saying the thing is though there was something in my heart that felt very attracted to what she was doing, even though I didn't understand it.

Speaker 2: (04:33)
And so when we spent time together that week, she started to explain things to me and give me examples. That really helped me to anchor in and understand what she was talking about. And so I made a decision shortly after that to trust my heart and to try to quiet my mind, even though I had no idea what I was doing, I was like, what the heck are we talking about? What are we doing here? Am I doing this right? I don't even know what's going on. Honestly. And now, you know, three years later, three years since I've been using the expansion principle, modality, and really developing my understanding of energy, my language for it has evolved and it will continue to evolve and my under to evolve. And my understanding of it will continue to evolve. And so I'm sharing this because I think it's helpful to look back for me and to explain to you that I was there too. So if you've been listening and you were one of the people that maybe voted on one of my Instagram polls that really didn't understand energy and business, this is still for you. And I'm gonna explain to you why and give you examples, um, in other areas of life that you might be able to anchor into, you know? Okay. So without further ado and

Speaker 3: (05:56)
You just might not have words for it yet, let's go into that. So first we're gonna be cautious of your mind talking you out of things and think back about other times in your life, where you let your brain take control and say things the mind comes up with things that sometimes aren't very helpful. And sometimes aren't very kind. And if we're not conscious of that, and if we just trust our brain, then it's gonna be a little tricky. It might be a little bit Rocky of a road. It's I mean, I guess it's always a Rocky road, right? But our mind isn't always the truth. So for example, again, I'm gonna give some context through my experience, cuz that's usually how I explain things. And I think that from the people that are learning from me and who are here to learn from me, it might be helpful. So before becoming a mother, my brain was kind of mean to me about it. You know, my brain was like, well, what if you don't know what you're doing? What if you're not good at it? What if you're a crap mom? What if you're not patient enough? What if you're too selfish?

Speaker 3: (07:13)
And then before stepping into energy healing practitioner training, my brain would say things like, you're not a healer. You have no experience. You don't even know what that is. You've hardly ever even been in healing circles or spaces and all of these things. So be cautious of what your mind might try to talk you out of, cuz you can think yourself right into a hole. And so what if, instead of questioning yourself into a hole, what if you trusted, why you were led to things that perhaps the loving nurturing mother inside of you is already there or that you don't need to know what you're doing to get started or that you might not ever call yourself a healer in order to guide people to healing and along their own healing journey or that you actually don't need experience to be a good mother.

Speaker 3: (08:18)
So let's walk through a few examples because those are usually my FA the first one that I wanna share is pregnancy. You know, so many of people listening to me, um, have been pregnant. And if you haven't, that's okay, we can still, you know, just kind of roll with me on this. So pregnancy is a steep learning curve. From the moment you get a positive test, you are like deep diving into all of these things. Like for me, I know that that day when I saw the positive test of a test, I was like, oh my gosh, what supplements am I taking? What medications do I take? Or what is this safe? Is that

Speaker 4: (08:54)
Safe? What am I drinking? What am I eating? Is it okay to eat this? Wait, am I using this medicine on my face or creams or eye creams? What are the ingredients? All of this stuff. And so from that point until forever, you are thrust into this steep learning curve. If your mind talked you out of it, then you might not have gotten to the point where you were ready and available for a positive test, but when you're ready and available for something you're led to it. And so birth knowledge was part of that pregnancy journey of steep learning curve for me. So the first pregnancy I was not ready and available for learning about birth, this physiological birth, how labor and delivery and birth works in the body. I was not ready for that, but that second time I was different and I was open and available to learning it.

Speaker 4: (09:56)
And when I did that, I was led to it, a childbirth educator. We had a private class and there was a moment when she was holding the pelvic model and holding the model baby and twisting the baby through the pelvis to show me how they fit. Cuz in my head I'm like, how do they fit though? How does that work? I can't grasp how it works. I'm looking down at my area and it doesn't look big enough for that nine pound baby, cuz I, I had a nine pounder with my first, so I was assuming to fit. And when she turned the baby to show me how the baby rotates during labor usually so that the widest part of their shoulders turn to go through the widest part of your pelvis, like the click click, it clicked. And I was like, oh my gosh, I get it. I see it. Right? So I was led to it.

Speaker 4: (11:02)
I didn't have the knowledge or the words or the understanding of it to get to that point. But once I was ready and available and I trusted my heart, I was led to it and things started to click. And throughout that journey, more and more things were clicking. Right? Another example. Um, and if you're not in the birth world or you don't have kids, I apologize that there's so many birth examples, but these were the two that were just so profound for me. But the other example was getting into the birth space, into the birth industry in about 2017, 2018, early, late 17, early 18, an early conversation I had with the person who would be reviewing my certification package for childbirth education. Right. I was wanting to do virtual, submit it virtually, you know, the whole certification process. I needed it to be

Speaker 5: (11:52)
Virtual, even back then before everything really kind of is virtual. And so I was having this conversation with the person at the certifying organization and she's, we are just chatting away and she's like, so what brought you into the birth world? And I'm like, well, it's probably not what you'd expect. It's prob I'm probably the minority I used to be in the corporate world. And now I'm a corporate dropout and I was burst open by birth. I had this incredible feedback experience and I realized that everything was different and I had to do something different with my life. And right. I thought that most birth workers were born with that passion and with an innate knowledge of birth, if that is not true, my mind could have easily spiraled me into backing away from the industry. If I held onto that belief of like, well, I'm not, I'm not actually, this I'm actually a finance major. And I, I worked in corporate real estate finance. So that that's actually the box that I'm in. I don't know enough about this. I wasn't born with this. I don't understand any of this. I could have done that. I could have doubted myself into a hole and let my brain question my stuff into a hole.

Speaker 5: (13:11)
But instead I felt the pull. I felt that fire in my belly that I just couldn't ignore. And I trusted where I was being guided. I followed where my heart was pulling me, even though I had no idea what was going on honestly. And so I'm sharing all of this to give you some reminders and all of this, to say that, remember that this thing that's burning in your belly was placed inside of you and you were led to it regardless of what your resume says, regardless of your credentials and how many trainings you have, how many years of experience you have in that particular field, this was placed in you. You were brought to it. Not for no reason, not by coincidence, not by accident, not so your brain could logic you out of it. The other thing I want you to remember is that you don't need to know everything to take a step, no matter how small trust, that feeling start to slow down and feel where you're being pulled and where you're being guided. What if you slowed down and noticed what you're being drawn to. And even if you didn't understand it, you still went for it. The third reminder I wanted to share with you is that guides are the people that you meet along the path that can help you remember what you're here for. And they can help you with the next steps of your journey. They can help you learn the things that you think you wanna learn, even though your brain is like, you're not gonna learn that you don't know how to do that. These

Speaker 6: (14:50)
People are here for that. That's what they're here to do with you. They're here to guide you to help you to give you specific experiences and examples that land with you and help you have context for what's going on to help you have language and a deep understanding of what it is that you're being led to. I hope this was incredibly helpful. And if you had been feeling like you don't know anything about energy and business and you don't have the language and you don't know what the heck I'm talking about, but you kind of feel pulled to it. I invite you to join this free three day event with me. It's for you. If you feel it, if you know, then you know, there's a link in the show notes that you can apply. It's not too late. You can still get in. And hopefully I can be one of the people on your journey to help you have some understanding and some language, and to give you experiences that really help you anchor it in where you have those aha moments on clubhouse. They call them gems, which sometimes makes me crazy. So I invite you to, and I will see you.